But parenting do not just stop at giving birth, putting in money and providing support. It involves love, nurture and its almost about all the interaction between the child and his/her parents. Though the ideology of parenting is great and nobel, its still hard to deny the fact that parents aint perfect.
In Singapore, there are parents who neglect their children. Some resort to violence towards their kids. Alot of times, the object and aim in life between child and parent diverge and they became obstacles to each other. Some parents are good, some parents are bad, alot in grey areas. Thus not everyone love their parents.
I am someone who do dislike my parents, as I felt that the way they upbring me and my sister caused lots of problems to us in the later part of our lives. I feel that their over protection hindered alot in my personal development, as I see myself as a someone who loves creativity and keen towards various experiences in life. But my parents barred me from going out, listening to music, learning computer, playing games, controlling my finance up till as long as when I'm 16-18 years old. When I say "barred", it dun mean "reduce" but rather "not at all" or "near zero".
As much as some parents say that their children as rude and have no manners, I find that my parents are lacking a lot in etiquette. I had heard them lying and breaking promises umpteen times, not only to me, but to her friends and relatives as well. Whenever I approach them and ask for a reason to lie, they will either say "oh, i dun want ppl to know so much" or "its ok one".
Before I queue to buy food, I will take some time to decide what to eat in the menu, and this is the time when my parents will scream at me for "not getting in queue fast, resulting in letting some other person joining the queue". I explained that its ok to others go first, as I dun want to end up jamming the queue when I still cant decide what to eat when its my turn. But they insist im stupid.
Another issue is their totalitarian behaviour. As a member of the house, I will always think of new and effective way to do things. But my folks will always insist on their own way of doing things. The worst is that when i try to reason calmly to them, they will blow up and, no matter how much i try to explain my point, the idea will never get to them, either that or they refuse to accept no matter what. They are quite stubborn and it makes expressing ideas to them really near impossible.
My parents have bad tempers. Dad will bear a black face and flare up over the slightest issue. Mom will scream and cry even the public when she insist on getting her things done, even if it small things like not opening the windows of my room. I myself seldom even shout or scold ppl, let alone flare a temper.
All these lead me to dislike my parents. I used the word "dislike" and not "hate" as what they had done is not enough to warrant a "hate". I still acknowledge the fact that they had done alot for me and spent lots of money on me. I thank them for their teachings, though some are not correct, but its still out of love.
What I can say is, their intention is definitely good, but took a wrong direction. So, dear VR-zone bros and sis, do you like or hate your parents? Share story.
"Not all fathers and mothers make good parents; Not all teachers can educate well. Some are just f*cked up."